Category: Dating and Relationship

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Are Men Losing Their Mojo?

Did you know that men no longer date? I compared notes with a friend recently who met someone on a dating site a year ago. He calls or messages her almost every day yet he never invites her out on a date! In my case, I had ONE in-person meeting with a guy I’ve been talking to for the past 7 months. Is this a new phenomenon? men no longer invite women out on dates? and are women expected to do the chasing then?

While I personally have no issue with being the one to chase, I do have difficulty dealing with mixed signals. Either you want us to have a relationship or you don’t! and if you do want to get together surely you know that we can never progress past the getting-to-know-you stage unless we actually get to know each other?

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Villain or Victim?

Is it ok for me to get into the same line of business as my friend?

Imagine that Jack and Andrew have been friends for years. Jack has always been a chef with his own moderately successful catering business. Andrew, an office manager, has always had a knack for cooking and suddenly decides that he wants a career change. He decides to go to culinary school and becomes a successful and much sought-after chef. Did Andrew do something that can mean the end of a good friendship with Jack?

I’m always a bit annoyed and critical of someone who copies something I did, my thought is – where is their originality? If on the other hand, they told me they liked what I did and wanted to try it, I would happily help them get it done while eliminating any mistakes I had made. That’s a little weird right? You would think so, but there is a quote of seeming unknown origin that says “Good artists copy; great artists steal”; meaning that a copycat duplicates what you did but someone who improves on what you did owns it.

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Let Love In

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs puts the human need for love and belonging halfway up the totem pole of needs. To my mind, as important as the other components are, giving and receiving love is paramount. If the human need for love is unmet, all else is adversely affected and no one is happy.

Maslow theorized that if a particular need is unmet, an individual is motivated towards fulfilling that need

I know this may seem terribly presumptuous of me, but I don’t agree! My theory is that motivation to pursue love is dependent on the unique circumstances and experiences of the individual. Some lack the capacity to allow themselves the degree of vulnerability and acceptance that love demands.

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