Is Your Sexual Health Ruining Your Relationship?

In my mid-thirties I was in a long-term relationship with someone who enjoyed sex as much as the other man but somehow seemed to forget it existed unless I reminded him. In some cases, he would outright say no when I begin to put moves on him (and believe me, I’ve got moves!). I would climb on top of him and begin to undress him (he’s the kind of man who sleeps in neatly ironed cotton boxers and pristine white t-shirts).

He would laughingly resist me as I undress him. I would shut him up by kissing him – he loves to be kissed and I would kiss my way down the side of his neck to his chest then suck his nipples. That’s about when he would forget why he was resisting the hot lovemaking that was about to go down!

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Love Light and Joy

What do you do when you’re in emotional pain? Events, loss and the thoughtless actions of those you love can literally bring you to your knees! What do you do? do you pray? Pour your heart out to a trusted confidant? Maybe you cry and lick your wounds in private because you want to always appear strong and indomitable?

Although I try to be stoic and unfazed, there were a few times in my life when I completely fell apart. I can still vividly recall my despair, that empty aching black hole in the center of my being. Did I ever fully recover? Did the black hole scab over and disappear? Who knows? Maybe I built a wall around it, high enough to safeguard myself from ever falling prey to any circumstances that may reopen that wound.

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