Did you know that men no longer date? I compared notes with a friend recently who met someone on a dating site a year ago. He calls or messages her almost every day yet he never invites her out on a date! In my case, I had ONE in-person meeting with a guy I’ve been talking to for the past 7 months. Is this a new phenomenon? men no longer invite women out on dates? and are women expected to do the chasing then?
While I personally have no issue with being the one to chase, I do have difficulty dealing with mixed signals. Either you want us to have a relationship or you don’t! and if you do want to get together surely you know that we can never progress past the getting-to-know-you stage unless we actually get to know each other?
I’m hoping someone could help me understand a few things:
- Why would a guy be exchanging pleasantries for a year instead of dating?
- Is this technological age giving birth to men who date via text?
- Or is it that men are addicted to dating sites?
The thought that men can be addicted to dating sites never occurred to me until I came across this article. That’s when I recalled a conversation I had with a friend, she’d met her perfect match. His profile said he was looking for a long-term relationship (which she was also looking for) so they started messaging each other. This went on for months, they exchanged photos, spoke on the phone, and messaged each other every day but he never invited her out. She eventually moved on when she realized that he was still active on the site and their ‘long term relationship’ was not going anywhere.
How and when did men lose their mojo?
How and when did men lose interest in the excitement of the chase? Are women too readily available and accessible? I can’t speak for all women but I personally want the flowers and the chocolates, I want to be wined and dined and everything else that comes with good old fashioned courtship. I want the man who can entice me with his confidence, intellect, humor, and masterful lovemaking. I do not want a watered-down, lukewarm, lackluster type of man. Who wants a man who appears to be so worn down by his very own humdrum existence that he can barely muster up the energy to pay attention?
I’m not sure how younger women are dealing with this but, grown women have less tolerance for the attentions of this type of life form. As a grown-ass woman myself, I definitely do not have the time. The way I see it, life is short – either you want to build a meaningful relationship or you don’t. I think I speak for all mature women when I say we have enough friends to message about inconsequential things every day, we don’t need more of the same.
What’s your take on all this? do you agree with me or do you have a different point of view that you’d like to share? comment below either way.
I am glad that someone has brought this to the forefront, I think that most men these days find women a challenge, we think way too fast, make fantastic choices based upon our ability to quickly make a assessment in any given situation, we speak our minds boldly and open our hearts to our men, now that for a man is cause for concern and suspicion 🙁